Hey Star! Great to see you here.
I totally understand about the click-ish stuff. I noticed my own journey this year. After registration, during dinner, I was overwhelmed and exhausted and totally didn't want to interact with anyone new. And as the weekend progressed, I got more relaxed and more open to new folks. I feel like that is another reason I wish the conference were longer. (Which I know would make it harder for many folks to come to, but I think it's important to think about the overall balance before we rule anything out.)
I notice, too, that this is the first year I felt like I actually connected with you, and with your partner, despite having been at a couple noloses together in the past. I've relaxed into the idea that eventually we'll all get to know one another, and so I don't feel the need to push so hard to get to know everyone right away.
So true that thin is not the end of all problems. After all, the greatest cause of death is birth.